Self Help and Prosperity Blog

How to think more positively

2012-01-14T00:10:00.000-08:00

I know it's hard sometimes to think positively. I have a tip for
you today, I hope it helps you change the way you think.

I often find that when I have a real challenge in my life or a
major decision that I have to be careful to not let fear in and
stay positive. many ask me "how can I think positively?"

To answer this - start asking yourself the how and stop the why
not inside you.

Let me explain..When you want something or need to do something
challenging start asking yourself "How can I do that? How can I
change that?" rather than focusing on the why nots.

Why nots are the reasons why something is difficult or what you
see as obstacles. Change your focus to possibilities rather than
difficulties. Your whole outlook will change.

Remember in any situation and whatever you face in your life you
are not without hope, you do not start from zero. Before you tell
yourself that it is too difficult, go through the advantages you
have. The truth is that you have a lot, even though you may tell
yourself otherwise.

So my message to you this week is this - to start thinking
positively, start with the positives and then ask yourself how
you can build on them.

I wish you success,

Until next week,
Karl Perera

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New Self esteem and Depression Articles from me

2012-01-07T01:18:00.000-08:00

As my first post of the New Year thought I'd like to tell you about what I've been up to recently.

First, I have produced a number of new articles and pages about both depression and self esteem and I plan to write even more soon. Here are two new pages I've written on Squidoo:

Building your self esteem - my lens is about exactly what is says how to build your self esteem and lots more including how to test your level of self esteem and confidence right now

Depression self help guide - again I think pretty self-explanatory. It's about how to help yourself overcome depression with some great ideas.

So if you'd like to improve your self esteem or if you suffer from depression, do yourself a favour and visit the above pages.

I also advise you to check out my articles on ezine articles where I am an expert author: topics include bipolar depression, depression tests and how to build self esteem and much more:

Depression and Self Esteem Articles

Be nice to YOU...

2011-12-02T04:01:00.001-08:00

While I love helping people and am ready to do so whenever someone wants my help, some people make it so difficult!

I get many requests for help with self esteem issues. I really enjoy asking difficult questions that get clients to really think about their "problem" or situation. Many problems are not even problems at all but confusions in the mind. Life coaching I believe is all about assisting and guiding the client to open their eyes and hearts to what is really happening.

When a client suddenly uncovers the reason behind a belief or behaviour their eyes are truly opened.

Yes, helping others is one of the most satisfying things in my life. It surpises me often, though, how much we neglect helping ourselves. It is not selfish to help yourself but caring. You matter as well.

I am sad how often I talk to someone who wants to break free of an old way of living to live a new life filled with happiness yet they do not see how badly they treat themselves.

My message to you today is simple...

Give yourself a break, be nice to YOU for a change.

You matter.

If you want to find out how Life Coaching can help you then please contact me and I'll arrange a time with you for a FREE consultation.

Have a great day!

Please check out my websites:

More Self Esteem
Depression Help
Karl Perera Life Coach

Why is motivation so important?

2011-11-21T23:51:00.001-08:00

if you know what motivates you, you can change your lifeso you do those things and this will give you more joy. The important thing isthat if you have joy you will do great things with your life and will not failwhen things get difficult. If you do what makes you happy, whatever that is, itmeans you will work hard on it and do your best. If you do what doesn’tmotivate you then this is a disaster, you will not work hard on it, your heartwill not be in it and you will not succeed.

What motivates you is a key question and when you find ityou can move forward. When I spoke to you and tried to help you, you seemwithout motivation and felt trapped. Finding motivation and strength within youwill help you decide to get up, stop feeling sorry for yourself, and act in away that will help you get yourself to a better place.

That better place is where you can be happier and morefulfilled, where you can help others be happier too. Where you can be what youare supposed to be - what God wants is that you are happy and doing what youare good at. Depression holds you back and that is a shame.

If you ever suffer from depression then take a look at this page about treating depression

Perfectionism

2011-11-21T00:26:00.001-08:00

Last week I sent out a message to my subscribers all about perfectionism. I said the following:

"Do you constantly tell yourself you could have done this better or said that better?"

"Do you spend time worrying how others will respond to you?"

"And when you have a bad day do you go over and over what happened and wish that you had done things differently?"

I got quite a few replies saying there is nothing wrong with trying to improve and of course there isn't. Improvement is progress and looking at how you can have done things better is a good idea if you want to learn from the problems and challenges of life. However, the problem of perfectionism is that you want to improve and even when you do you drive yourself harder.

Perfectionism is a problem that never goes away because you can never be perfect.

Seeking perfectionism is the road to unhappiness and you need to accept that you are not perfect. No one on this planet is. Be happy to do your best and yes learn from it. Try your best always and take setbacks as opportunities to learn and improve yourself. Don't use setbacks to kick yourself and don't be discouraged because setbacks are a natural part of self growth.

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Do you lack motivation?

2011-10-27T23:23:00.000-07:00

This week I'd like to talk about how important motivation is.

With motivation you will face challenges and won't give up easily. With motivation you won't worry so much about what others say to you or their criticisms. Without strong motivation, though, you won't have the will or the strength to follow through.

I've seen that many people imagine all kinds of things they'd like to dow ith their lives. They tell me I want to be more this or I want to do more that or they say I need to change how I do this but then what happens?

Nothing changes. Why?

Because they lack motivation.

It's like setting sail on a long voyage in a boat that has holes in it, you won't get far before you'll have to either turn around or sink.

So here's my question...

What will motivate you to make positive changes in your life?

Think about it.

What motivates you? What is important enough to you to make you determined enough to carry on even if you experience difficulties?

Motivation is the key driving force you need to face the setbacks that always come up. If you can find your motivation and reasons for doing something then success becomes a real possibility.

QUOTES - MOTIVATION
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Dream big and dare to fail. Norman Vaughan

I couldn't wait for success... so I went ahead without it. Johnathan Winters

I'd like to recommend you visit this motivating page:

Words of Inspiration and Motivation

A Formula for Success..

2011-10-20T23:52:00.000-07:00

Today I'd like to give you a little motivation...

Let me ask you "Do you know a formula for success?"

Would you like to know THE secret of success, however you define that?

Well here it is - The Secrets to Success is:

FOCUS + ACTION + PERSISTENCE

Let's look at each of these in turn.

First, you need to focus on what you want. Really focus and that means making a clear picture in your mind, hearing and feeling whatever it is that you are aiming for. Experience in your imagination as if you have what you want.

Second, time to take action. Just thinking about it doesn't make it happen, whatever they tell you in "The Secret". You need to plan how you will take steps to move closer to your goal. Success comes from making it happen.

Third, persistence. Never give up trying. If you are not happy with how you are progressing try a different route. There are always alternative ways to achieve any goal. You always have other choices. Never give up. Success is always preceded with what some see as failure and others see as temporary setbacks. Don't let this stop you, keep moving forward.

That's it. You WILL be successful if you follow this formula.

A big problem that may be holding you back from achieving what you want in life could be low self esteem. Check out my website More Self Esteem for help building your self esteem and confidence.

Do Your Beliefs Help You?

2011-10-14T00:11:00.000-07:00

Are you happy with your life right now?

If not, what can you do about it?

Today I'd like to ask you to examine your beliefs. Now beware...Some of these beliefs may be hidden deep within your brain so you may have to ask searching questions and think carefully to find an answer.

Many people come to me for Coaching and need help with self esteem or confidence issues. They want steps that they can follow to build self esteem or become more confident. In Life Coaching we know that the most powerful changes that we can help someone make come from questioning beliefs.

What are you beliefs?

Ask yourself "What do I believe about myself?"
"What do I believe I can do well?"
"What do I believe I don't do well?"
"How do I believe others see me?"

"What do I believe is possible in my life?"

Self esteem is so important but before you try to boost yours ask yourself:

"What do I believe I deserve?"

When you ask these kinds of questions you must be very honest. You can easily fool yourself.

When you have discovered what your main beliefs are then you need to figure out which beliefs help you and which don't.

Once you know which beliefs limit you and hold you back preventing you from being happy or achieving your goals then you can do something about it.

The next step will be to replace those limiting beliefs by ones that help you move closer to living the life you want.

I hope you have enjoyed this short post, there is more coming soon.

If you'd like one to one help from me, try a free 50 minute Life Coaching session - leave a comment below with your email or contact me

My new attempt to help you...

2011-07-09T03:42:00.000-07:00

Finally after a lot of planning I have taken another huge step in helping others. Last week I opened my new Life Coaching program and got a great response from my subscribers.

I am enjoying the contact it gives me with those who want to improve their lives and I am now in demand!

If you are interested in my Life Coaching Program and want to try a FREE 50 minute session to see if it's for you then just let me know when you're available and we'll sort out a time, but hurry because this is a limited offer.

Contact me now

Anxiety and depression disorder treatment

2011-06-07T04:53:00.000-07:00

Anxiety and depression is a page for you if you would like to learn more about the connection between depression and anxiety. I am working on my site about depression to provide as much information and help as possible, so if you know someone who needs help with depression or if you are suffering visit the above page and look around my site. Comments are very welcome.

Thanks to you all!

Sleep and depression

2011-05-30T05:54:00.000-07:00

Many people ask me about sleep problems...

Do I believe in sleeping pills?

No, not really. Sleep is natural and you don:'t need to take pills even if you have problems sleeping. ıt's all about restoring the balance in your sleep system. Here is a great page I wrote about the connection between depression and sleep. I think you'll find it helpful. Comment below and tell me what you think...

Sleep and depression

How to help someone with depression...

2011-04-28T00:33:00.000-07:00

I've written quite a lot about depression and what to do if you're suffering from the pain it causes. Today I'd like to take a slightly different slant on this and talk about what you can do to help someone who has depression.

Do you know someone who is suffering from depression?

What can you do to support them and help them?

I've put together a list of things you can try and which will work.

Check out this page now:

How to help someone with depression

A Special Milestone...

2011-04-12T05:22:00.000-07:00

This week I reached a milestone - I published and sent out my 100th. newsletter!

The newsletter started in 2002 and is still going strong helping my readers to build their self esteem.

In between the monthly newsletters I send out a weekly inspirational message covering many self help topics which always gets a fabulous response:

"Thank you so much, Karl for all your inspiring and encouraging mails." - Grace

And this comment that makes me feel very humble:

"I am extremely touched by message on MISTAKES, the message was timely and equally encouraging. I thank Jehovah for creating people like you. You are a light, to illuminate lives."

Sign up for my newsletter now

How to Master Self Esteem...

2011-03-30T05:00:00.000-07:00

"To master self esteem one has to know God gave you a unique identity that comes with authority.Look at every one who lives and walks confidently,they understand their uniqueness and for one i have began my great walk of confidence and self esteem.I have to let everyone know that there's no one like me.I am here,if anyone doesn't like it its their problem.
This is what you should say to yourselves to attain a strength beyond your imagination.
One last thing,walk with your head up high,it helps you adapt to the confident walk."

This came from Edwin and I publish it here because I think the comments are so true!

Be back soon with more inspiration,
Karl Perera

Author of "Self Esteem Secrets - 12 Steps to Success" now on Amazon.com:

A Great Peace of Advice...

2011-03-11T23:35:00.000-08:00

I received this helpful advice from a reader today and thought I would share it with you. I hope it helps you...

"I can share the advice that a friend gave me and I'm trying to apply:

Always spend time with people that love you, and cut the ones that don't from your time, cause we learn to see ourselves from the eyes of the ones that are around us"

I think that's such a great peace of advice because so often we stick around with those who really hurt us rather than gravitate towards those who love us.

I wish you a wonderful weekend!

An Exciting Announcement and a Personal Ambition Realised..

2011-02-26T04:37:00.001-08:00

I'm so excited to tell you that I have just launched my new book on Amazon.com!

It is a paperback version of my e-book which I have updated because I received so many requests for a physical version of the ebook.

You can order a copy here:

"Self esteem Secrets" - Get my Book Now

"To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world."

Until next week,

Take care,

Karl Perera

How do you think about problems?

2011-02-21T06:01:00.000-08:00

When you have a problem to solve or a major challenge in your life, how do you think about it?

Perhaps you have something that you need to do but inside you think that it's very difficult.

I found myself making challenges even worse by focusing on the problem and not on the solution.

Our brains look for problems to solve. There are many around but what do you do when you run into a problem or challenge you need to face?

Sometimes thinking about the problem can make it worse. How?

By focusing on the difficulties and obstacles that lie ahead. If you do this you magnify the problems in your mind and paralyze yourself. You are most likely to take action when you feel you can succeed but focusing on the obstacles and difficulties destroys action.

Are you spending your energy building up your problems until they seem like huge unbreakable walls in front of you?

I have done this to myself many times but now I am convinced that those with vision and a will to succeed are those who can look beyond the problems and difficulties and begin to break down the fear by focusing their energy on solutions.

Think of a challenge you face in your life. Maybe a change you need to make. How have you been thinking about it? Isn't it about time you began to channel your thought and energy into how to move forward and stop focusing on how difficult it all looks?

I'll be back with more very soon...

Take care,
Karl Perera

After 17 Years in Turkey...

2011-02-11T09:57:00.000-08:00

I've been living in Turkey for 17 years and I won't pretend it's been easy. I was born in England but moved to Turkey when I was in my 30s. I often thought about returning to England but for one reason or another the fates have conspired to keep me here.

Have you ever asked yourself why your life is the way it is? I mean have you asked yourself why you are where you are? Why have things worked out that way?

When I look at things, the culture here is quite difficult for me to live with. I find it challenging in so many ways. The people here are very nice but stubbornly set in their ways and don't get me started about this being a logic-free country!

There is a point to this post that I think you'll get a lot out of...

It is that I've concluded that the reason I am here is to live through these difficulties and why...?

I am slowly finally learning how to keep calm under stress, hold in my thoughts and respect others even though they seem to act so differently from me. The best way to relate with people is not to react even when they act totally illogically. There is no point in trying to tell anyone, especially from a different culture, that they are unbelievably blind to the obvious.

Today I am sure that being here, despite the constant stress and culture clash, it has forced me to confront the intollerance within me. I am the one who is meant to progress and I can't make others do the same.

So maybe the time to leave is approaching as the lesson is being learnt. I hope this will make me a better person.

So next time you feel like screaming at someone or lecturing them why they are completely wrong, think again and laugh and let it go...

It's not impossible. I am finally letting it go, there is less frustration that way.

My new Book...on Amazon.com

2011-02-03T05:03:00.000-08:00

My new book is nearly ready - just waiting for final approval of the updated version then soon I will put it up for sale on Amazon...

I'm very excited about this because I always wanted to be an author.

The book is the physical version, updated and edited of my e-book "Self esteem Secrets".

In my upcoming book you can discover the twelve steps to a high level of self esteem. I also outline what that will mean to you. How would more self esteem change your life?

Here's my newly designed cover for the book, love to have your opinion on the look and feel of the book cover:

just comment below...

Karl

Two kinds of people..which are you?

2011-01-25T04:30:00.000-08:00

There are TWO kinds of people in this world. I want to ask "Which are you?"

The first type of people are successful but the second type aren't...

Let me explain what these two groups are.

People can be divided according to how they face life's troubles and problems. We're agreed that we all face constant challenges, aren't we?

So what do you do when you face a challenge or problem? Which of the following describes you, Type A or Type B?

If you are Type A then congratulations! When you face a difficult decision or problem in your life you face it head on. No fear. You think about how to overcome the problem not how the problem is going to overcome you. You know there is a solution no matter how difficult it looks. You do not panic. You don't listen to doubts or negativity within you or from anyone else.

If you are Type A you are prepared to move forward and battle until you succeed. Failure is not an option.

If you are Type B, well you need to work on becoming a Type A.

If you're Type B you avoid facing challenges and crave security and safety. Anything unfamiliar or difficult scares you. You prefer to avoid confrontation and keep your thoughts and ideas to yourself, that way no one can make fun of you. Fear is very much part of your aproach to life and it's problems.

Which type are you?

Next post I'll talk about how you can become a Type A and learn to face up to your challenges without fear.
Change is not something to fear but something to embrace.

Please leave a comment below and come back to read my next post as we'll cover some really important stuff!

Take care,
Karl Perera

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Happy New Year

2011-01-07T07:02:00.000-08:00

How has this year been for you? I hope it's been a year of improvement
and that you've experienced the following:

- friendship. With 6 billion people on the face of this earth all you
need is ONE close friend. It is my wish that you are lucky enough to
possess the thing more precious than gold itself - true friendship

- joy. Now everyone, including myself, faces unhappiness at times but
I really hope you've experienced moments of joy. Treasure those moments and re-live them when things get difficult.

- satisfaction. That you have succeeded or achieved something worthwhile. One of the best things you could achieve today is to put a smile on someone's face..:)

- hope. I have a hope that the world will be a better place, it doesn't seem like reality but I can't give up hoping. You shouldn't either. There is always hope, no matter what others tell you. If you truly believe in something don't give up until you get it.

- enlightenment. It could come from anywhere. Inspiration. Learning. Read and look to discover the truth in the world around you. Don't just believe everything you see and hear on the TV.

- peace. A very valuable emotion. Inner peace is truly what we all need. I hope that sometime during the last year you experienced the stillness and quiet and felt true peace in your heart, even if just for a few moments.

- love. Did you love someone or something this year? Did that love bring you some happiness. I really hope it did. You deserve love and keep telling yourself that. Go after what you love.

- awe. The world is an amazing place. I truly hope that there were times that you saw or experienced something that took your breath away. The incredible beauty and power of this world and the natural
things within it constantly remind me that my being here is more than chance and is a miracle.

I hope this last year was filled with feelings and emotions that remind us what a wonderful thing it is to be alive. Even if there was also suffering or pain, then I pray you learn to focus on those great moments and find motivation in the good.

My personal message to you is my sincere wish that this Christmas will bring you peace and joy that will spread into the year ahead. I hope to continue to try to inspire you each week and hope that in some
small way I can help you build your self esteem and find the real you inside.

Happy New Year...

Plans for the New Year...

2010-12-23T02:31:00.000-08:00

Before I hop on a plane from Turkey to Austria (where I'll be spending Christmas and the New Year) I would like to share with you what I plan for the next year.

Now:

I have redesigned my depression site - check and let me know what you think

Please comment below,if you visit the site.

My kindle version of self esteem secrets can be downloaded here

Coming soon:

I have created a physical book version of "Self Esteem Secrets" and will soon put it on Amazon.com.

My personal message to you...

2010-12-22T05:53:00.001-08:00

2011 is just round the corner and so I thought I would send you a
personal message and say a big thank you for visiting my website,
signing up and reading the emails I send each week.

How has this year been for you? I hope it's been a year of
improvement and that you've experienced the following:

- friendship. With 6 billion people on the face of this earth all
you need is ONE close friend. It is my wish that you are lucky
enough to possess the thing more precious than gold itself - true
friendship

- joy. Now everyone, including myself, faces unhappiness at times
but I really hope you've experienced moments of joy. Treasure
those moments and re-live them when things get difficult.

- satisfaction. That you have succeeded or achieved something
worthwhile. One of the best things you could achieve today is to
put a smile on someone's face..:)

- hope. I have a hope that the world will be a better place, it
doesn't seem like reality but I can't give up hoping. You
shouldn't either. There is always hope, no matter what others
tell you. If you truly believe in something don't give up until
you get it.

- enlightenment. It could come from anywhere. Inspiration.
Learning. Read and look to discover the truth in the world around
you. Don't just believe everything you see and hear on the TV.

- peace. A very valuable emotion. Inner peace is truly what we
all need. I hope that sometime during the last year you
experienced the stillness and quiet and felt true peace in your
heart, even if just for a few moments.

- love. Did you love someone or something this year? Did that
love bring you some happiness. I really hope it did. You deserve
love and keep telling yourself that. Go after what you love.

- awe. The world is an amazing place. I truly hope that there
were times that you saw or experienced something that took your
breath away. The incredible beauty and power of this world and
the natural things within it constantly remind me that my being
here is more than chance and is a miracle.

I hope this last year was filled with feelings and emotions that
remind us what a wonderful thing it is to be alive. Even if there
was also suffering or pain, then I pray you learn to focus on
those great moments and find motivation in the good.

My personal message to you is my sincere wish that this Christmas
will bring you peace and joy that will spread into the year
ahead. I hope to continue to try to inspire you each week and
hope that in some small way I can help you build your self esteem
and find the real you inside.

Happy New Year...

My best wishes to you,

Take care,
Karl Perera

Author of "Self Esteem Secrets"

2010-12-17T01:46:00.000-08:00

It's common to feel down from time to time, but it's less common
to suffer feelings of despair and emptiness that won't go away,
even if you change your circumstances. Depression is more than
just a case of the blues. It's a low feeling that makes it hard
to enjoy life or even to function on a day to day basis. When
friends and hobbies are no longer interesting, you feel exhausted
on a regular basis, and it's hard to get through your day, you
may be suffering from the signs of depression. Let's take a
closer look at them today.

Learning about the signs of depression and what you can do about
them is the first step to overcoming your problem.

Find out how you can eliminate your depression permanently just
like I did:

Get Free of Depression
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Depression may make you feel extremely sad [[firstname]], or just
listless and numb. It takes over your life, makes it hard to have
fun, sleep, eat, study, or do just about anything. Intense,
unrelenting feelings of worthlessness, hopelessness and other
negative emotions are extremely common. These are just some of
the signs of depression.

When you're depressed, your sleep will be disrupted. Some people
can't sleep, while others sleep all the time. Easy tasks become
hard and concentration becomes more difficult. You may feel
helpless or without hope, and unable to control your negative
thoughts. Food is affected by depression, as well. Some people
lose their appetites, while others distract themselves with food
or feel hungry frequently. Irritability and short temperedness
are common, and you may think your life's not worth living. You
could feel either keyed up and agitated or sluggish and listless.

Depression is a major risk for suicide, but just because you're
depressed doesn't mean that you are suicidal. The two things are
connected, but not the same condition. If you've experienced
suicidal thoughts or impulses, it's important to get help of some
kind, but it can be extremely hard. Make sure that people take
you seriously, even though it's difficult to talk about openly.
Remember that seeking treatment doesn't mean you're weak, and it
doesn't mean you have to be medicated or institutionalized. There
are lots of ways to help get over the symptoms of depression that
don't require drugs.

The solution I recommend, Depression Free Method offers more
information on all the symptoms associated. Many doctors won't
hesitate to put you under ineffective drugs that make you feel
dazed most of the time. These drugs work temporarily but rarely
provides a permanent solution.

Instead of waiting for your doctor to put together a puzzle that
is rarely solved, there are many ways you can grab the bull by
the horns and learn about this mental condition yourself. By
trying some of the suggestions in the Depression Free Method, you
can heal yourself fast and permanently!

Find out exactly what I’m talking about:
Get Free of Depression
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To Your Good Health
Karl Perera

Get Free of Depression

Please tell me what you think...

2010-12-14T04:55:00.000-08:00

I'm really interested to know what YOU think about my newly re-designed site.

I've tried to make my Depression helper website better. I mean more personal, and easier to look through. Can you take a look and tell me what you think?

New Depression Help Site

Two quick questions:

1. Like the design? Yes/no? Any suggestions or comments?
2. Should I keep my picture at the top or take it away?

If you comment below I'd really be grateful because this will help me to improve the site so more people can benefit from it.

Thank you

Click here to view the New Depression Helper Site Design

The Way to Program yourself for Success...

2010-12-03T06:21:00.000-08:00

Have you ever heard about how hypnotists can make people do things like quit smoking or feel less pain? From what I’ve read, the way it works is the hypnotist puts a suggestive message in your subconscious. I’ve never tried it before personally, but they say when you wake up it feels like there’s a voice in the back of your head that encourages you or discourages you do to do a particular activity.

A more technical term for this is “subliminal programming”. It means exactly what it sounds like – programming the brain on a subconscious level. Subliminal programming is widely used today not just in hypnotism, but in self-empowerment and goal-setting. There are many gurus and workshops around today that teach people how to do this. Has anyone every tried this? Does it really work?

The thing with those workshops is they’re usually pretty expensive. If you’re a little skeptical about the whole thing, you might want to try it out first at home. There are software packages now that can teach you the same techniques without a live instructor.

One piece of software available is Sculptor 3 made by AffirmWare. This software program is supposedly like having Dr. Phil in your house. It’s your very own personal self-empowerment coach that focuses on affirmations, subliminal programming, visualizations and goal-setting.

The concept is basically like this – your present reality is something that you project from your own thinking. So if you’re a positive thinker, they you will see the world as positive and always see opportunities. If you’re a negative thinker, then you tend to always see things in terms of shortcoming and barriers. Now, what if there was a way to control your thinking? Would that automatically result in a change in your environment?

AffirmWare’s Sculptor 3 says yes, you can change your thinking by constantly bombarding yourself with positive affirmations. Actually, I’ve read that some athletes practice visualization techniques to fine-tune their skills. Sculptor 3 does the same thing, helping you visualize your goals and build confidence to achieve those goals.

Sculptor 3 has an interesting system where you have to finish sentences after your chosen affirmation. As you complete your sentences, your mind usually tries to create opposing thoughts to negate your affirmations. But with Sculptor 3 to back you up, you can start practicing how to counter-attack those bad thoughts with more good thoughts. It is this skill, learning how to break through your personal barriers that Sculptor 3 is all about.

In addition to the software you get some other free stuff. You get a subliminal computer program that flashes pre-selected or custom-made subliminal messages on your computer. You get screensavers, a free e-book called “It Works”, “The Science of Getting Rich” mp3s, and 26 health reports.

In conclusion, if you’re interested in trying out subliminal programming, you can try Sculptor 3 first on your computer. A lot of people swear by it, saying that it helps them stay focused on their goals and feel positive. The software is pretty easy to use, and you get lots of freebies.

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Self Esteem Help in your Pocket...

2010-11-19T01:35:00.000-08:00

I'm so excited because this week I became an author at AMAZON!

How did I manage that? Well, I have been selling my e-book "Self Esteem Secrets" from my website over the last year and decided to make my book available on the Kindle.

The Kindle if you've never seen it is a hand held e-book reader which does some amazing things. Check it out. The price has come down and it would be perfect for Christmas...

Check out Self Esteem Secrets (Kindle version) here.

Just imagine walking around with my best self esteem tips in your pocket. My e-book close at hand.

Not sure if I've shot myself in the foot here but you can get my self esteem boosting e-book much cheaper on the Kindle and read it on the go.

Yes, I'm a self help author on Amazon.com and Amazon.co.uk

So if you want to boost your self esteem then I've got the help that you need in my book. download it today!

Near Life Experiences

2010-11-18T02:18:00.000-08:00

Again this week my son Daniel surprised me with the high quality of his writing and guess what? He's only 16 and writes so well.

He asked me to put his latest piece of writing on my website which I did and it has proved to be a knockout!

Read "Near Life Experiences" and let me know what you think by adding a comment on the page and liking it on facebook.

To date more than 40 people have liked the article on Facebook and we've had more than 150 positive comments.

I'm so glad that Daniel is able to write such inspiring material and it certainly fills me with hope for his future. Well done my boy!

So go check that page out right now:
Near Life experiences by Daniel Perera

Self Help Tips Revealed...

2010-11-09T08:29:00.000-08:00

Just tried to write a title that will get your interest, did I succeed?

Here are my top self help tips in articles I wrote and put online. Please check these out:

Self Esteem - The Art of Loving Yourself

Taking Care of Yourself - Depression Can Be Beaten!

How to be Happy With Yourself

Self Esteem Means Feeling Good Inside - How to Feel Good Insidese

I hope you enjoy these articles and if you do please share them with others and bookmark them, that would be much appreciated so others can benefit too.

You get what you expect from others...

2010-11-07T12:05:00.000-08:00

In this short article I am going to talk about how those who suffer from low self esteem get what they expect from others. That is, they anticipate that someone will react to what they say or do in a certain way and guess what, they do!

This is called self-fulfilling prophecy.

This expectation causes the person to bring about their own self destruction.

After explaining exactly what is going on we'll also look at how anybody who has low self esteem can take corrective action and help improve how they communicate with others in order to boost self esteem and confidence rather than self destruct...

Generally if you suffer from low self esteem then you'll also think negatively of yourself and expect anything you say to others to be received negatively. Guess what, this is exactly what will happen. What you fear will come true. what you're doing is confirming that you are correct to think of yourself negatively. You are justifying your negative thinking and feelings of low self esteem. How you do this is by acting in a way that will make the other person act the way you expect.

Maybe you use negative body language or stutter or get confused or maybe you panic or blush. Your mind is actually working against you. all because your brain is trying to prove to you that your feelings of insecurity are correct.

You don't have to go through this forever. You can turn this around and start to build your confidence as you do so. How?

First, learn to slow down and breath evenly and relax.

Second, very important this one. No matter how you feel smile.

Third, say something positive to yourself and imagine you look confident.

These steps can help you to start to expect the opposite, a positive reaction. Look for a friendly smile from the other person and note that a question means the other person is interested in what you have to say.

Just go from there and build up the conversation. Try to talk but not too much, listen also. Nervous people often forget to listen and then get embarrassed when they forget what the other person said or they make an error.

Good luck you're a step closer to building your self esteem.

Did you find these tips about building self esteem useful? You can learn a lot more here:

Self Confidence Tips

Dealing with depression - new article

2010-10-22T05:41:00.000-07:00

I've just written a new article called "Dealing with Depression" so if you're in need of some advice about how to get help for depression or if you're feeling very unhappy right now then go look at my new article:

Dealing with depression

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Top Ten Depression Tips

2010-10-13T00:59:00.000-07:00

I've just written a new article to help you if you feel unhappy or hopeless in your life. I have an awful lot of information on my depression helper site..

The new article gives my "top ten depression tips" - check it out today and get started on helping yourself if you suffer from depression or severe unhappiness.

take a look at the article now:

Top Ten Depression Tips

Change refreshes you as it challenges you

2010-10-05T07:48:00.000-07:00

I've just returned from six weeks back home teaching in the UK. What an inspiring break I had!

I call it a break - well it was a working holiday, a chance to touch base. In contrast with Turkey, where I have lived for 16 years England is still where my roots are. My family keeps me in Turkey but old friends, parents and the lovely historic town of Durham brings me back each year.

I've had my dose of Englishness and reminded myself about the things that matter to me most:

Nature, the peace of feeling you belong in a place, your culture, being with people who share your outlook on the world, familiar surroundings and sounds.

Now it's back to adjusting once again to the strange culture in Turkey and all it's oddities.

So how do you benefit from a break or a change in your life? New experiences, time to re-think what you are doing in life and where you are going..new challenges and faces, new friends.

Every now and again be sure to make a change and take a break for your own sanity. It's well worth it and you deserve it.

Change produces anxiety - take a look at this page for more information about anxiety and depression

I'm lucky to be here...are you thankful to be where you are?

2010-08-30T07:05:00.000-07:00

For the next month I am in the North of England in Durham. This is the third year I've come here to teach.

It's an inspirational place. The cathedral is a haven of peace and stillness. Time has stood still. My time here is a real break for me from stress and a chance to get back home.

The message here is simple: take some time away and seek out a connection with who you are. Try to go where you can feel your soul and feel at home. Get away from all the stresses you normally face and take some time to think.

I leave you with a couple of pictures I've taken and ask you isn't this place inspirational?

Have a great week...

Here's more about how to overcome depression easily

Have you ever wanted to communicate better and improve your relationships?

2010-08-27T12:59:00.000-07:00

I've just read a first-rate book and it's really made me think.
It is currently one of the most popular books on communication skills...
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Winners and Losers...

2010-08-06T04:19:00.000-07:00

Well, you know what?

I'm not going to tell myself I failed, and I'm not going to tell myself I lost - because I didn't. Sure, I may have finished last, but at least I tried, and that's what matters. Because most people in this world are too afraid to even try. I'm glad to have found the courage in myself to take part in something so big. I'm proud, even though everything went wrong and nothing went as I wished it to go, to be able to say I was there, competing against the best - showing people the best of my ability. And I believe that no matter what the final outcome was, I have won a very meaningful victory within myself. I pushed myself to compete against the best, to do something which was so scary at first; I gave it my all, and now, I leave this place with my head up high. I am not going to weep because I couldn't go as far as I wanted to today, but instead, I'll celebrate how far I have come over the years.

We must always remember - the greatest rewards in life come from doing the things that scare us the most. It's okay to lose, to stumble and fall at first, because no one was born a winner. We become winners through our ability to get through hard times when everything seems like it's falling apart, and through the ability to say ''I'll do better next time'' and to make it happen. Quitting is never the answer, and it may sound cliché, but the people who quit are the real losers, not the people who try and finish last.

So give everything your best, and do whatever you want to - never back down because you are scared, frightened and afraid to do something. Live life, for every day is precious. Do what makes you happy, and take the opportunities that are right in front of you - don't be frightened by the prospect of failing, because no success comes without prior failures. Try your best always, and remember: the only battle which is lost is one that is never fought.

Written by Daniel Perera

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Instant Be Happy Video

2010-07-21T00:16:00.000-07:00

Your day is going to be great after you see this.. To get you in the right mood
I'm sending you a link to an inspiring video , I hope it helps you to get positive..

Click here now to watch the video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gXI80TqAMQQ

(If you have trouble viewing the video because YouTube is banned in some countries then use a proxy - go to proxy.org or do a search for proxy on Google)

That video will remind you of what is really important in life and I hope it will motivate you and bring a smile to your face. Let me know what you think of the video.

I wish you happiness this week and beyond,

take care,
Karl Perera

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Win-Win with "Self Esteem Secrets"...

2010-07-16T00:33:00.000-07:00

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How to be happy Now!

2010-07-09T00:02:00.000-07:00

To get you in the right mood here are a few thoughts about happiness, I hope they help you to get positive..

When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we
look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which
has opened for us.

- there is ALWAYS hope and opportunity no matter what.

Happiness...it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of
creative effort.

Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and
the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by
sadness. It is far better to take things as they come along with
patience and equanimity.

Remember that happiness does not happen when you do something it
happens now while you're living. This journey is meant to be
enjoyed and experienced not feared.

To sum up what I am saying:

"A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes."

Discover more about how to be happy

Is this a wonderful message or what?

2010-07-04T11:31:00.000-07:00

I received this wonderful message this week and I wanted to share
it with you...

"One of the basic insights of Truth is the awareness that things
may happen around you, and things may happen to you, but the only
thing that really counts is what happens within you," (Eric
Butterworth).

Whatever circumstances You encounter, no matter what life throws
at You, you are still in control of your attitude. You can always
choose to respond with forgiveness and love.

Do you know one of my biggest mistakes in life? What made me
unhappy and depressed for years?

I couldn't forgive myself and I couldn't love me. I'm talking
about treating yourself with kindness and giving yourself
encouragement as you would someone you care about.

Please remember this and act upon it this week. The one who is
responsible for your happiness is YOU.

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Why do You Have Such an Awful Life..?

2010-06-26T00:53:00.000-07:00

Are you feeling like your life is awful?

Ok, for some people certain problems are making life difficult; nonetheless, your problems can be overcome.

What I would like to talk to you about today is maybe you feel your life is horrible but don't really know why or what to do...maybe you just feel depressed all the time and down on life in general.

Do you know the number 1 reason why most people feel depressed about their life?

It's not about problems...

It's about your thinking and your focus..

"one of the greatest causes of depression is focusing on other people. If your life seems bad then maybe it's because you are thinking too much about other's lives..."

What do I mean?

Well, are you focused on what you want.. or on what others want from you?

Are you working towards goals that make you happy or goals that others have chosen for you?

Are you measuring your life against that of your friends or family or other people?

If you want to feel much less depressed decide whose life you want to live and start creating goals YOU want to achieve...

Start to live by YOUR standards and forget what others tell you you must do..

Stop comparing what others do, where they live and how they live, how much they earn, what job they have and throw that ALL away NOW.

Create your own life and depression will melt as soon as you take steps towards being you.

Create a list of things you want to see, do, be, have, enjoy NOW

Start imagining living a life with those goals reached - how does it feel?

Ignore what others are doing or telling you and listen to the master voice inside and act with your heart for there lies your best.

I wish you a great week...

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What is the first step to not being afraid...?

2010-06-15T03:21:00.000-07:00

Fear grabs a hold of everyone. Are you seized by fear? You're certainly not alone...

What's the first and most powerful step towards ending your fear?

...to not being afraid?

-It's knowing how to defend yourself.

Think about that, if you're sure how to defend yourself when fear of any situation hits you then what's to be afraid of?

When the worst happens, you'll know you can handle it and it won't crush you. So ask yourself what do you fear? What situations do you dread? What are you scared of? Then ask how can you defend yourself?

Defending yourself from fear means not running away. It means facing your fears head on and overcoming it.

Equip yourself with powerful weapons against your fear. How?

Acquire knowledge, experience and prepare yourself for the challenge. Probably your best weapon against fear is your attitude and mindset. Belief that you can control your fear enables you to stop it controlling you and ruining your life.

This week don't give in to fear, face it and equip yourself with the weapons you need to defend yourself.

Be strong and good luck!

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Positive thinking Tip #10 - Success is nearer than you think...

2010-06-04T01:11:00.000-07:00

"Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up." Thomas A. Edison

Sometimes I feel so down and depression comes knocking at my door. Do you have the same problem? Of course you do!

We all suffer from negative thoughts and depression can affect you when you turn your thoughts inward and downward.

At those times you should choose to remind myself of a great truth:

"You are not a failure"

You just haven't succeeded 100% yet.

But hang on a second...maybe you have succeeded 20% or 30 or 40%

Remember also, anything worthwhile is not done in one step but in many small steps.
You cannot give up after these small steps or you'll not take the next one...

Keep going even when you feel like giving up because you are nearer success than you think :)

In most cases success means just a small change - it IS within reach but if you listen to your negative self talk, that dark voice inside you, it will tell you success is impossible.

So my tip for you today is...

Understand that success is closer than you think and that in most cases a small change of attitude is all you need to take action to correct your progress towards your goals and dreams.

Silence the dark voice of despair and negativity inside you and answer it, tell it that you won't listen, you'll SUCCEED!

Take a look at my lastest self esteem newsletter for more info and help get yourself out of the rut your in and begin living life to your full potential.

An amazing tip you can use every morning..

2010-05-31T00:45:00.000-07:00

I hope that this week finds you feeling hopeful. I'd like to offer a quick tip here that will help you find more motivation and happiness and make you stronger. So let's get to it...

Do you ever wake up and find yourself down even before you've got up?

Before your day has started you already feel depressed?

If that's true then I have a solution..

I sometimes find my mind working against me in that period before I wake up properly. Negative thoughts beginning to creep up on me and fear and anger are also there not far behind. have you experienced that?

If I get up all gloomy, dreading the day ahead I know that I have a problem even before the day has kicked in.

You cannot face the new day like that. A new day should be exciting and full of possibilities...

Depression is like a seperate character inside you, a real enemy because he talks to you and tells you negative things. In your subconscious and in your drowsy morning state this little monster can be very powerful.

What do I do before I get up so that I am happy and feeling ready for the day? ı have a tip I'd like to offer you next time you feel bad in the early hours.

Calm your breathing and then put your thoughts onto something you love, something that made you happy even if for just a short time. Relax. Now start to think of all the GOOD things in your life. There are lots if you think. Even if your life seems horrible or if depression grips you, you can do this...

Count the things you have already which are good, the people, the places everything. The things that you saw or heard or enjoyed recently. There is a beautiful world out there - what do you find beautiful? Think of that.

Gratitude, being thankful is an awesome thing. It will change your attitude instantly. Spend 10 or 20 minutes doing this before you get up and your mood will be positive.

Let me know if this tip helps you and if you try it...I'd love to hear your thoughts...

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Breathtaking Quotes - Awe-inspiring Words...part 1

2010-05-19T01:50:00.000-07:00

Just found this great quote:

"Tragedies happen. What are you gonna do, give up? Quit?
No. I realize now that when your heart breaks, you got
to fight like hell to make sure you're still alive.
Because you are. And that pain you feel? That's life.
The confusion and fear? That's there to remind you, that
somewhere out there is something better, and that
something is worth fighting for."

- I really believe that there is no failure unless you give up.
You CAN be successful but only if you are determined...are you
100% sure you want to succeed?

(ps: when I say succeed - I mean do whatever it is you want to
do.)

Success to you may be getting more friends, being able to speak
in a group or giving a presentation. It may be gaining respect
from your family, a great job or becoming financially
independent. Whatever it means to you it is in your power to get
it, all you have to do is be determined and try even when you
fear tries to stop you.

Your self esteem is central to all of this...

But your self esteem and confidence will increase when you start
to challenge your fears and confront the pain that has held you
back. Step out of your comfort zone and do something new,
something positive and when you do that you'll be on the road to
a better you.

Inside you there is someone unique and very special. You may not
even be aware of the person you could be - one thing is for sure,
winners are those who fight against their fears and overcome
them.

Failure is giving up.

I hope this brief email has helped give you a boost. I'll be
sending you more soon...

Take care,

Karl Perera
Author of Self Esteem Secrets E-book:

One Step That is Vital = Tip #9 How to be More Positive

2010-05-13T04:22:00.000-07:00

This tip is one of the most important ones of all and it is central to changing the way you think...

Before you can begin to think positively you need to examine what you really want. I mean really.

Most people never understand what they want and what motivates them. Do you?

Ask yourself these questions and spend time writing your answers -

What do you really enjoy doing?

If you could do anything what would you do?

What do you really want to achieve?

What makes you feel good?

Answering these questions honestly and getting to know what motivates you is the most important part of changing your thinking and actions for the better.

Don't let another day pass by without asking yourself these questions and then think about the kind of things that need to be changed to make your life more rewarding and balanced.

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What Everyone Ought to Know about Focus - Positive thinking Tip #8

2010-05-10T06:50:00.000-07:00

Focus is extremely important. Ever heard of the law of attraction? What you spend your time thinking about is what you bring into your life...

My tip today is to change your focus from negative to positive. Ever find yourself thinking about your problems or difficulties? Are those thoughts making you worry and causing you pain? Sometimes I find myself thinking about the situation I find myself in and how painful it is. Sometimes when I don't realize it my mind seems to magnify the difficulty and I begin to see problems and not solutions. It begins to look hopeless. This is negative thought going crazy...

You need to stop this cycle but how?

Simple. Focus not on the problems or difficulties, not on the lack but on what is good, what is right and what you enjoy about your life. Is that impossible?

NO!!

Even if your life needs improving and you feel bad you can change that round and look for what is already good and already right rather than concentrate and focus on what is missing.

Remember focusing on the positive no matter how small will do the following for you:

1- make you think more positively
2- give you hope
3 - make you feel happier
4 - make it more likely your life will improve
5 - make you less stressed
6 - attract the things you want

So today stop yourself and check where your focus is and direct your thoughts as a conductor directs the orchestra. You want to start creating a life you love and that comes from within you.

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Here's a quick way to boost your positivity Tip #7

2010-05-06T04:30:00.000-07:00

Are you scared of challenges?

You're not alone. Most people worry about facing new or difficult tasks but it doesn't have to be this way. Let me show you why challenges are your best friends.

What is a challenge?

It is something you see as difficult. Many tasks come along that fill people with fear and often it is because you have not done the task before. In this case be happy rather than scared because the challenge is a chance to move forward, an opportunity for you to learn a new skill that will make you a more successful person.

Challenges can build your self esteem because they lift you to a higher place and when you do something beyond what you have achieved before you are growing as a person and this will make you more confident.

Challenges seem scary at first because of the unknown factor or because you are not sure what will happen and this makes you uncomfortable. Each time you overcome a challenge you will grow as a person and as you are able to do more you'll build your positivity.

Challenges are not to be feared but you should be excited to tick them off one by one and then afterwards you should reward yourself.

If you want to be more positive and change your thoughts so they will help you, then challenges are the way and facing them and overcoming your fears will make you a champion.

Good luck!

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Here's how one small change in a sentence can change your thinking - Positive Tip #6

2010-05-04T07:55:00.000-07:00

Want to know how you can change your thinking with just one or two words...?

Instead of saying:

"I can't do this."

say:

"How can I do this?"

Do you think successful people say I can't...no they ask themselves how and when you do that your brain starts to work on the answer. When you ask "how" your brain accepts that it is possible and a solution can be found.

You don't always have to work out the how. Sometimes a solution will come from within or out of the blue but one thing is for sure...

If you use can't you are refusing to accept that there is a chance of doing whatever it is that you have thought of and how then will it ever be possible if you can't imagine it so?

Next time a challenge faces you, ask:

HOW can I....?

This works. This is powerful!

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Scared?...then do this. Positive Thinking Tip #5

2010-05-01T17:27:00.000-07:00

Are you scared? Does fear cause you to remain trapped or afraid to take the next step?

You are not alone, life is filled with scary challenges and sometimes your head may be filled with thoughts about what might happen...and often that can mean you're thinking about the possibility of failure and that is scary.

So what can you do to overcome the fear that paralyzes you, that stops you from taking any action?

Well if you are worried that something may happen, think about what is the worst that can go wrong for a minute and start to imagine what that would mean for you. What would be the result if your worst fear actually happened? Could you recover from that? What would it take to get things back to normal? Would the disaster you fear actually be the end of you or could you do something to fix it?

Now ask yourself how likely is it that the worst case would happen? Rate this from 1 to 10 where 10 is likely and 1 is unlikely.

What is the best that might happen? And again rate the possibility that all would go well out of 10 where 1 is unlikely and 10 likely.

Is your fear justified? Chances are you may now see that probably things will be OK and even if the worst happens you can survive it. Maybe you're worrying too much about things going wrong...

This exercise is all about perspective.

Do this for your major fear or for a decision or challenge you face now and analyse your fear. ıs it justified?

When you do this you'll see that it is usually worth the effort to go ahead. Success favours the brave after all.

Positive thinking Tip #4 - Visualisation

2010-04-26T05:52:00.000-07:00

My fourth tip is so important but first a word of caution:

This is something you need to do EACH DAY and your results will depend on your keeping at this. GOOD NEWS is you only need 5-10 minutes maximum for this exercise.

To make your dreams come true try Visualisation. What is it?

What you do is for only 5 or 10 minutes EACH DAY relax, close your eyes and see yourself living the life of your dreams but imagine how you feel, what you hear and see everything in as much detail as possible...

These two things are very important when visualising:

1- only spend 5 or 10 minutes and then forget it.
2- imagine that everything is already like you want it and imagine what it feels like and how you are behaving and thinking. use as much emotion as possible. For the time when you are visualising imagine everything as if it were real.

Over the last few days I have been watching a truly wonderful DVD called Thoughts Become Things which I recommend you watch too. The idea of visualisation is explained at length as is so many other ideas. What I really like is the way that Mike Dooley helps you to understand the power of your thoughts and how you can use them to help make a positive change in your life and break away from self-defeating negative thinking...

The DVD is available right now from Amazon.com and I advise you to grab a copy. It's a must see!

How to Make your Thoughts Positive and Powerful - Tip#3

2010-04-22T01:58:00.000-07:00

It's time for tip number 3 and another powerful way that you can program yourself to think positively...

Have you heard of Affirmations before?

Just in case you haven't here's a quick explanation for you:

Affirmations are positive statements you read out everyday to slowly change your thinking.

How do you use them? This is what I do:

Read out these affirmations and any others you find that help you several times a day.

It's a good idea to put them on the wall or above your workspace. Anywhere that you see them regularly. You can write them in a diary or even put them on your computer.

Here are a few Affirmations to start with:

"I focus myself on positive and good things"
"I like who I am"
"I am a powerful, kind and creative person"
"I feel safe and secure being me"
"I accept the truth inside me"
"I am prosperous"
"I am free to choose my path in life"
"I let anger and frustration go"
"My life is filled with love, direction and joy"

You'll feel better just repeating these and if you keep at it for a few weeks you'll change your whole attitude.

Remember don't give up and say these a few times each day even if you don't feel like it. Try to believe what you read and it will come true.

I have written an e-book called "Self Esteem Secrets" which will help you feel better about who you are, you can get a copy now at a special price

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Change your thoughts...tip#2

2010-04-21T01:03:00.000-07:00

Look out for negative things that you say. Talk is your thoughts made into sound and communicated to others. They become very powerful because you're putting your thoughts out there in the world...

So today try this tip:

If you catch yourself using CAN'T, DON'T WANT, DON'T LIKE, HATE then change these to make positive statements with prefer, would rather,and so on.

For example:

I can't do that - say - I would rather do this
I don't like living here - say - I prefer living there or I would rather live there.
I hate this job! - say - I'd prefer another job

These are small but important changes and make all the difference.

You don't want to keep these negative aspects in your life so make them into positives you want to see rather than negatives that you don't like and this will help to make your thoughts more positive.

The Law of Attraction is something I will explain more about tomorrow.

See you then

Take care,
Karl

Tip #1 - Positive thinking

2010-04-20T04:35:00.000-07:00

Today's tip is simple and quick (and all these tips will be).

It is so easy to be negative...TOO easy in fact so here's a way to change your thinking and if you use this you can start to look forward and use your imagination to expand on the possiblilities that exist. This will increase your hope that your life can and WILL improve.

So here it is:

Ask the question "What if...?"

What if ....he agrees?
            ...it works?
            ...it is easier than I think?
            ...I succeed at this?
            ...find an answer?

Ok, got the picture?

Instead of anticipating failure you'll start to imagine what can go right and what that would mean, spend time answering the question "What if ?" in your head and seeing and feeling the positive consequences when things do work out right....

This tip is extremely powerful, start trying this today...

If you find this tip helpful or have another please leave a comment below...

How to be more positive...really - step by step

2010-04-19T01:23:00.000-07:00

Ever noticed how some people are always positive and enthusiastic. I know people who seem to get excited about the smallest things and never seem to stop telling jokes and smiling...

If you want to improve your life and what you get out of it you need a positive mindset.

I've learnt this personally because for large parts of my life, (without really stopping to check the effect), I've been negative inside.

Now if you want that positive change in your life you need to seriously work towards programming yourself to be positive in all ways possible...

Over the next few days I'm going to give you step by step help with this. We will look at ways to change how you think and react to the world around you. I am going to give you a tip each day to become more positive...

The point of this positivity though is to help you change your life.

There are three steps you need to follow to change your life for the better:

step one - POSITIVE ATTITUDE AND MINDSET
step two - MAKE A DECISION
step three - TAKE ACTION

So tomorrow I will start with the first step and start the journey towards becoming much more positive.

Here's a quote to get you prepared for what's to come:

"You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you."

- James Allen

Remember to visit my website for more about building your self esteem

Do this every day....

2010-04-14T09:17:00.000-07:00

Recently I realised that there is so much noise going on in our day to day lives that we cannot think.

Are you feeling confused or lost? Trying to reconnect with what you want in your life? Instead of trying to work out what it is you want, (not a bad idea but this takes time), try quietening down your mind for 15 minutes every day and this will enable you to connect with the inner you and relax.

If you don't stop and calm down and switch off the noise, the thoughts and all the stress around you then how can you reconnect with yourself?

I think it's very important to switch off your brain for a short while and be still. You'll feel refreshed and relaxed if you do this. I'd really be interested to hear what happens when you try this...

How do you feel afterwards?

Comment below and tell me if this technique helps you and let us know if you feel better as a result..

I know it helps me...

Look inside your heart

2010-04-13T05:10:00.000-07:00

Hi many people told me to act according to my head and not my heart. After 46 years of living on this planet what do I think of this advice?

WRONG! WRONG! WRONG!

That's the recipe for unhappiness. For sure.

So if you're confused or feel a bit lost right now..well, that's normal. Life is not easy, is it? But ask your heart what it wants and don't follow your head. Life is not logical and does not follow the ways of logical thinking. Intuition and emotion lead to desire and that leads you to action.

What did Carl Jung say about this?

I think that quote says it all don't you agree?

When you get some time check out my website all about self esteem

Change your thoughts

2010-04-12T03:54:00.000-07:00

How important do you think your thoughts are in relation to your success?

You know as every day passes I come to think that mindset is the difference between people. Here's a great quote:

"change your thoughts and you change your world"

Norman Vincent Peale

Read more great inspirational quotes here

Quote for today...

2010-04-09T05:14:00.000-07:00

Here's a great quote for you today:

"Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off the goal."

- Henry Ford

What is your goal? Do have something you really want and desire right now?
Are you working towards achieving it and if not, what's stopping you?

It's amazing that when you really go for what you want, nothing can stop you but as soon as you begin to doubt - guess what? You see problems, obstacles in your way.

You can either focus on the goal you want to achieve or on the problems facing you and the obstacles in your path. You cannot do both.

If you want to succeed and achieve your desires in life you need to always have your eyes on your goal.

Read more about goals here

Aspire to be You - Monthly program

2010-04-08T14:02:00.000-07:00

Just updated my new membership site "Aspire to be You"...

So far I've got about 40 members who are enjoying full membership at a ridiculously low introductory price of just $4.97 per month.

Here's the monthly program which will build into a complete self help course over the months:

Month 1 - getting started

- Important Definitions - I explain the most important concepts for you.

- Attitude and mindset - some words of warning and help which will set you up for success.

- What is the reality of your problem? -

Month 2 - Goal Setting and Happiness

Plus a FREE e-book "10 ways to be happy"

Month 3 - Public Speaking

Plus a FREE e-book "Prepare for public speaking success"

There's lots more inside and lots more to come.

I'm really excited to tell you about this site because this is the first time I've tried to run a membership site.

At the moment you can still get in and take advantage of the special offer while I develop the site.

Sign up today and you'll get a FREE 30 day trial PLUS my new CD "A More Confident You"

What is happiness?

2010-04-07T02:28:00.000-07:00

Hi,

I hope you're happy today and feeling fine but if not can I ask
you:

What is happiness? What would make you happy?

Here's a quick quote:

"Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony."

- Mahatma Gandhi

Being unhappy or depressed means that your life is not reflecting who you are and the values you have. This causes you pain and confusion. To be happy you need to try to live your life more in tune with who you are.

How can you enjoy the journey when you are not sure where you are going?

Imagine being the driver of a car...You need to change course and turn to get to your destination, you may even get lost but if you know where you are going and how to get there you can enjoy the journey.

Finally:

"Life is not about accomplishment; it's all about doing, participating, progressing, growing,learning."
- Mike Hernacki

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This is what matters most

2010-04-06T00:34:00.000-07:00

Want to offer you a positive thought today...

Are you busy running...trying to achieve something...trying to be something?

Well stop a moment and consider this thought:

"It's not what you do that is important...

it's how you feel about it."

I think this says it all.

Have a great day - let your feelings guide you to what is best for you.

If you would like help becoming the person you know you can be then get a FREE trial of my new membership site "Aspire to be You" and get a FREE CD too:

Click here to get the CD and Free Trial Membership now

I decide...

2010-03-26T01:33:00.000-07:00

Here are the words to a song I just heard - read the words - they are incredible!

The song is by Lindsay Lohan and you can listen to it at the end (the words and the message are more important than the music). Enjoy it:

"I Decide"

Don't think that you can tell me what to think
I'm the one who knows what's good for me
And I'm stating my independence
Gonna take the road I'm gonna take
And I'm gonna make my own mistakes
It's my life
I decide

I decide how I live
I decide who I love
Choice is mine
And no one gets to make my mind up
I decide
I decide where I go
What I need
Who I know
I'm the one who's runnin' my life
I decide
I decide

Don't think you're ever gonna hold me down
Couldn't do it then can't do it now
I'm kickin' down all the fences
I'm gonna do it all and do too much
And if I mess the whole thing up
It's my ride
I decide

I decide how I live
I decide who I love
Choice is mine
And no one gets to make my mind up
I decide
I decide where I go
Where I sleep
Who I know
I'm the one who's runnin' my life
I decide
I decide

I'm taking my own chances
And I'm finding my own answers
I'm only answering to me
And that's the way it's gonna be
I decide
Oh yeah
I decide
I decide

I decide how I live
I decide who I love
Choice is mine
And no one gets to make my mind up
I decide
I decide where I go
Where I sleep
Who I know
I'm the one who's runnin' my life
I decide
I decide

I decide how I live
I decide who I love
Choice is mine
And no one gets to make my mind up
I decide

The doubts of Today..

2010-03-12T04:07:00.000-08:00

I've often said that great quotes can inspire you to make positive changes in your life. Here's a wonderful quote I read today:

"The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be the doubts of today"

- Franklin J. Roosevelt

Isn't that so true? I'd like to ask you a question:

How can you create something good in your life if you are filled with doubts?

It's impossible. So if you want to bring more good things into your life before you do anything else - remove the doubts. Start believing and it will happen.

Doubts are negative thoughts and they bring more negative thoughts. When you focus on reasons for failure you will cause failure. Positive thoughts help you to create a better future but how can you remove your doubts?

This is where you may get stuck. You realize the problem but don't know how to solve it. In the next few days I'll post again with steps you can take to remove your doubts and start believing in the power you have to succeed.

Make sure you revisit this blog for more...

Check out some positive videos here:
http://www.more-selfesteem.com/video.htm

The Natural Approach to Depression

2010-02-22T01:37:00.000-08:00

Take a look at this video which talks about a natural approach to depression. Interesting stuff!

Personal Accountability..

2010-01-22T11:35:00.000-08:00

Watch this great video. It explains self acceptance and much more..

Some great advice here for you. Self acceptance is definitely the most important first step to changing yourself and becoming a happier person.

Enjoy it...

Do what you enjoy...

2010-01-11T23:55:00.000-08:00

"There is no value in doing something you don't enjoy"

One of the best ways you can help yourself to boost your
self esteem is to give yourself more time to do what you
want...

What do you love doing?

Give yourself more time. You are helping the world most when
you love what you do.

One of the most important things you could do right now is
focus on what you want to do with your time and how you can
make more time to do it.

Stop filling your life with duties and responsibilities and
start respecting your own wishes.

There are plenty of people who place demands on your time. Think carefully before you make promises and sacrifice your time. If they truly need you and it is for a good reason then of course help them out. We are not talking about being selfish here.

Realise that you deserve time to yourself, time for you. It's all about valuing yourself and achieving that balance between helping others and helping yourself.

You may need help with this so...

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Exciting News...

2010-01-09T10:44:00.000-08:00

I have some exciting news...

I have been working on this and planning this for some time and I can announce that very soon I will be offering a FREE CD called "A More Confident You" to anyone who would like to receive it...

Yes I said FREE!!

The CD is over 60 minutes long and I am going to send it out to whoever wants it - tips, techniques and advice about increasing your self esteem and confidence. Your going to love it...

How can you get it?

I will tell you in the next week or so...be sure to come back here for news as I have it.

You'll increase your confidence
Eliminate your fears
Increase your self esteem
Understand what's holding you back and...

learn what to do to make 2010 your best year yet!

And to all those who get the free CD I am also going to offer something else..

Instant access and a FREE 30 day trial to my new "Aspire to be You" membership site!

I'll post more news in the next couple of days...

EXCITED?

I AM AND YOU SHOULD BE TOO!

Anger Directed Inside You is...

2010-01-05T00:25:00.000-08:00

I've just found an exciting video I want to share with you..but first let me ask you this:

Have you ever heard that depression is anger directed inside you?

I really agree with that definition. If anger directed within can hurt you so badly and become so powerful a negative force then why not use that anger to beat depression?

Before I give you that link just think about what depression does to you and how it has affected you and start to get mad at it a little. Ask yourself how much you want to get rid of it.

Also, let me remind you how low self esteem is a big part of depression and you must work on building your self esteem constantly.

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Click to find out how:
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Here's the link to the video I promised you:

Try it and tell me if it helped you...

Watch this depression video now
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I hope you enjoy it,

Until next time,
Don't give in to your depression!

Karl Perera

My Austrian Christmas

2009-12-30T06:59:00.000-08:00

Got back a day or two ago from a wonderful holiday in Kitzbuhel, Austria.

To spend Christmas in the snow is a dream come true and yet again I was lucky enough to witness snow falling over the holiday.

You may think winter is hard to bare and maybe you miss the summer but I think winter is so underrated!

Like everything snow can be hellish or heaven. Depends on your point of view. Summer too can be hellish or heaven depends what you make of it and how you feel.

Christmas is a feeling and it felt really good in the alps! I even went snowboarding in a white out on Christmas Day!

Here's a picture my son took. I think you'll agree that winter is truly beautiful.

Depression at Christmas...

2009-12-18T01:26:00.000-08:00

I know that depression can be such a big problem at this time of year so I decided to look for an inspirational video to post here. I found two...

It is so important to use this holiday season, (for most of you are about to celebrate Christmas and others the New Year), to take time out to focus on what's truly important to you. Also it is a great time to relax and winter gives you the opportunity to do that (yes I know it's hot there in Australia and New Zealand but still you can relax on the beach!)

Here's a great video which puts Christmas into perspective. If you're sad at all I hope it helps to change your mood:

It is important to relax and if you have a holiday use it to do that at least in part. Take a look at this page and at the video I've just posted (the first one) and relax as you watch it:

http://www.depression-helper.com/video.htm

Take care,
Karl Perera

Constant Motivation required...

2009-12-04T01:29:00.000-08:00

You know this week I have realised again how easy it is to slip into old ways.

I have been working online and offering help to my visitors for years right?

I have been giving advice, tips and techniques about how important it is to believe in yourself. I have always known this to be true.

This week I have been continuing to work on a big project I have for my website and as with everything worth doing there are ups and downs. It is critical not to become negative when you experience one of those downs.

It is a hard, lonely road when you face your problems and challenges alone. I decided to get help and now have a mentor - someone to help me and motivate me to try new things and reach for success.

This week I started to rethink what I was doing and negativity got the better of me. Yes I pretended to myself that I was considering the worst case scenario but really I was just preparing myself to limit my success.

Do you believe in the law of attraction?

If you think you can do something you will. If you think you cannot then you will not. You attract the things in your life according to your thinking.

I do believe this.

So why did I start to think negatively? This won't work. My results will not be that good. This is a problem, that is a problem. Shame about this and pity about that...

I needed to get positive and my friend told me exactly what I needed to hear...

"Karl you have GOT to be more positive..."

"Get your head in the game and stop all the negativity ... think BIG and you will make BIG ... put a ceiling on yourself and you will fail rapidly!"

How true. You see, we all go backwards sometimes but I'm here to tell you today that you need to stop yourself at those times and decide to move forward again.

Self improvement is the most worthwhile thing yet it requires self motivation and constant work. When you get down, don't stay there - do something to help yourself...

We'll talk about what you can do to help yourself next time but for today one peice of advice:

Get the help of a friend or if you have a major project in mind get the help of a professional. When someone is supporting what you're doing and there to help you when you fall or stumble it can make it so much easier.

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A question for you about your self esteem?

2009-11-24T05:39:00.000-08:00

I'm working on a new project for my website and I need your help...

I am preparing a FREE CD about self esteem.

What would YOU like to hear on a CD about self esteem?

Please comment below and tell me what would be most helpful to you.

In a few week's time I am going to be sending out this CD and it will be available as part of my new offer to subscribers at my website, news coming soon...

Return in a few days and I will tell you what's inside the CD.

Please answer my question below in your comment.

Thanks!!

What are you Working For?

2009-11-20T04:03:00.000-08:00

No, I'm not only referring to work here but any goal you're trying to achieve right now.

Before you can make progress towards any improvement or goal you need to ask yourself one all-important question. This step is often forgotten..

Ask yourself why.

Why are you doing whatever it is that you are doing?

If you focus on the why's behind what you think you want you will be so much more certain to succeed. You will be clearer when you need to decide. Your actions will be designed to help you make your dream reality.

Often low self esteem takes hold because of confusion about your purpose and reasons for what you're doing. Self-doubt grows out of confusion and indecision.

Don't be content to ask yourself what you want but also ask why you want it?

Go deeper and you will understand yourself better and be surer of your path ahead.

Always ask yourself why and what it is that you're really in search of. When you spend time digging into your real reasons for your decisions - you will find they are not the reasons you've been telling yourself for so long.

In the same way, looking at the why's may show you that what you're trying to achieve is not really what you need.

Focus on the why's and be clear about what you want...

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What is the enemy of Depression?

2009-10-22T06:37:00.000-07:00

How are things with you today?

I've got another quick message about beating depression for you,
please read this and use it because it can change your life...

How does depression do such a great job of wrecking your life?

What is the worst thing that it does to you?

It stops you from taking action.

Action is the most important factor in moving your life forward.
No action means you cannot take opportunities. Inaction also
makes you confused and unhappy. It allows others to take the
advantage and you allow this to happen. Inaction can be the
result of fear or stress but really inaction is
depression's partner.

So if you want to overcome depression you need only to take
action.

Now depression is a clever thing, it is not stupid, it is your
brain working against itself. Depression works to stop you taking
action. It crushes your ability to make decisions by confusing
you, stressing you, making you angry and sad and then it makes
you tired and takes away your motivation.

What can you do to help yourself:

1. relax and listen to calm music
2. read some inspiring quotes
3. watch a comedy on tv
4. smile

Do something! Anything! But start to take action. Don't accept
depression. A positive step in the right direction means a step
away from depression.

I have suffered from depression as bad as it gets and I know the
choice is either give in or take action to move forward. The
first step is always the most difficult...

I have found a great program that will help you, I recommend it
100%

Have a look at this now:

Conquer Depression, Stress and Anxiety Naturally:

Until next week,
take care,

Karl Perera
author of "Self Esteem Secrets"

Here's my top recommendation for this month! Affirmations work!

2009-10-05T02:20:00.000-07:00

Goals are so important to your success and if you'd like a quick and easy way to ensure that you stay focused on your goals there's one solution I know works...

Affirmations.

Click the banner above you'll see just how this amazing affirmations program works and exactly how it can help you change your life.

I've tried it out myself and loved it.

You do make a difference!

2009-09-18T12:41:00.000-07:00

I came across this WONDERFUL video today and wanted to share it with you...

You make a difference in the world. Someone somewhere respects you and someone loves you but guess what...

You need to share yourself with the world and try hard to make others feel good.

Watch this video TO THE END

It's worth it!!!

Discover the Self Esteem within you and share yourself with the world!
Check out my e-book Self Esteem Secrets

Go for the new...!

2009-09-13T01:50:00.000-07:00

One of the most important aspects of life as you move through it is your attitude - don't you agree?

Well today I'd like to ask you about your attitude towards the new..

Currently I'm in Durham, England teaching and the whole point of being here and doing this is to bring new experiences into my life. Life is about learning and you can only do that if you push yourself to go where you haven't been before or try things which are new to you. Whenever I get the chance I am visiting new places in order to see and learn more about my country and the world I live in. Not only that but by trying new things I learn more about who I am and what I want.

Are you stuck in a routine? Maybe you feel you are bored..

Seek out new places, new people, new experiences and learn.

You shouldn't fear challenges, you should welcome them and go for it. Likewise change can be stressful at first but can bring variety into your life. Don't fear change but welcome that too.

If you change your attitude today so that you start to seek new opportunities and experiences your life will become so much more rewarding and this will help turn you into a better person.

The world is a fantastic place full of challenge and variety. Don't keep yourself in the safe zone all the time, take a breath and try something new, take the time to learn something new - I guarantee your life will be so much better!

Three things you really need...

2009-09-05T11:42:00.000-07:00

What three things do you need in your life?

If you have these then success is just a matter of time.

Here they are:

NUMBER ONE

Your attitude. Is life happening to you or are YOU making it happen?

Do you believe in fate or do you believe you control your own fate? Plant in your mind that it is not what events come your way through fate but how you handle what is thrown at you that matters. You can influence every aspect of your life through your choices and decisions. Don't deny your power in dealing with life.

Need a change, you can make it. Need to make an improvement - you can. Sometimes things seem to come out of the blue but you make them happen and you can find an opportunity in even the worst situations IF you have the right attitude.

NUMBER TWO

Don't give up ever if you really want something. Be determined and go for it. You may have doubts. Others may try to tell you it won't work. trust your desire. Do you really want to do it? Then NEVER let go of your dream and drive on. Success does not come quickly every time and it may elude you... But... You WILL succeed. Never give up.

NUMBER THREE

There is one more thing you need to change your life and find the success you are looking for. What is it?

OK - you've got the right attitude.
OK - you are determined to succeed and are not giving up...

The third thing you need is to..

Start.

Act now, don't wait.

Don't delay. If you do you allow self doubt and fear to grow. You allow opportunities to pass. You lose time. You invite those discouraging comments into your head. If you're sure of what you want then begin now. Today. Immediately.

Good luck and I sincerely wish these words plant in you the seed of success!

If you would like to learn much more about success and how to improve your life, your confidence and self esteem then please check out my e-book:

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I'm teaching again...

2009-09-04T12:09:00.000-07:00

I told you I'd be updating you on what I'm up to on my trip over to England...

After spending a week at home with my parents I travelled north to the city of Durham, home to one of England's best universities. Durham is a pretty and historic city that is typical England (including the rain!)

I've started teaching at the university and will be here until the end of September.

What am I teaching?

I am teaching pre-sessional academic writing to Master's students studying Law.

I love teaching because it is a chance to give. Teaching combines sharing your experience and knowledge and helping young people to better themselves. Teaching here in Durham is really rewarding personally and gives me yet another purpose and reason in my life. It also brings variety as I normally live so far away from home in Turkey.

It is important to give of yourself and share what you know with the world. Helping others and working with them is a joy in itself. Open yourself up to giving instead of asking and you will find the world gives back to you anyway...

Likewise, variety in life is priceless. Don't stay in the safety of routine be adventurous and live a little. Push yourself for that's where success lies...

I'll be back again in a few days with more about what I'm up to and more inspiring posts will follow, be sure to come back soon...

Karl

Be sure to check out my e-book self esteem secrets while it's still on sale..

Can you buy happiness?

2009-08-29T02:24:00.000-07:00

Can you buy happiness?

Normally the answer would be no...

Happiness comes from within how can you buy that? Well, here's a great poem that answers this question in an interesting way:

"You can't buy loyalty, they say
I bought it though, the other day;
You can't buy friendship, tried and true,
Well just the same, I bought that too.
I made my bid, and on the spot
Bought love and faith and a whole job lot
Of happiness, so all in all
The purchase price was pretty small.
I bought a single trusting heart,
That gave devotion from the start.
If you think these things are not for sale,
Buy a brown-eyed puppy with
a stump for a tail."

(unknown author)

This is my loving dog "Toffee". I can't tell you how much happiness she has given me over the years.

A pet not only helps you get rid of stress but changes your whole outlook. It is one great antidote to depression. Better than any anti-depressant for sure!

The poem above was taken with permission from: http://www.everydaygyaan.com/

My Arrival in Durham..

2009-08-27T09:55:00.000-07:00

Yesterday evening I arrived in Durham in the North of England, greeted by the rain but my enthusiasm is not dampened! I will be teaching as I did last year at Durham university for one month...

I'll be keeping you posted about my time there, a little info about the place and some inspiring posts about life in general...

Come back and check me out for the latest news on my trip home to the UK.

When and How to Make a Decision

2009-08-22T02:10:00.000-07:00

I have written about making good decisions before. It is so important...

Do you have difficult decisions to make?

What is the most important thing to remember before making important decisions?

Well if you had bought my self esteem secrets e-book you would have got my free 1,000 word report about making good choices to help you build your self esteem. I really put a lot of time and effort into that report and it's filled with great advice.

So what's the answer to that last question above??

- Don't make decisions for a negative reason.

You shouldn't make any important decision when you are in a negative mood because you will decide badly. Your view will be mistaken and you will only see the down side of the situation.

Don't say "I hate this or have to desperately change this..."
Or "I can't stand this anymore so..."
Or "I don't want this, I don't like this.."

Decide only when you are in a positive mood and can see things correctly and in balance. You MUST make decisions for a positive reason..

Decide to do something or make a change in order to improve or better your situation.
Decisions which help you develop or grow or move forward are positive decisions.

So my message for you today is:

IF YOU HAVE AN IMPORTANT DECISION TO MAKE WAIT UNTIL YOU FEEL POSITIVE AND MAKE POSITIVE DECISIONS

I recommend the bonus report "Making Choices that Help you Build your Self Esteem" which is free with my e-book "Self Esteem Secrets" - go and get it today

What an awesome week!!

2009-08-19T02:31:00.000-07:00

Antione Albeau (France) - No.1 PWA Slalom Windsurf Champion and world record speed holder.

From the 10-15 August the Professional Windsurfing Association held the world cup in Alacati, Turkey and that's where I spend my summer windsurfing.

Can you imagine being able to see and mix with the top people in a sport or activity that you are very interested in?

Talk about motivation!

The worlds fastest competitors in windsurfing were racing and I took the opportunity to talk to some of them and we got incredible photos too! Talking to the experts in your field of interest is a great experience, how often do you get that chance?

I met the British champion Ross Williams and chatted with him several times, what a nice guy!

Ross Williams (world no.3 Slalom Windsurf Champion, GB)

Well it's off topic a bit but I thought show you the photos and maybe they'll give you a lift and brighten up your day. If it's grey where you are remember there is sun and a world of beaches out there. Aspire to get there and live your dream life...

All pictures were taken by Umit Yesildag a friend of mine:

Alacati, Turkey - beginners windsurfing.

For more photos look up Umit Yesildag on Facebook and check the rest of his photos.

You can find me on Facebook too!
Go to my Facebook profile

Check out this article in the New York Times about the windsurfing in Alacati:

Top 5 Tips to Conquer your Fear of Public Speaking

2009-08-15T00:05:00.000-07:00

Does public speaking scare you? Did you know that in a famous poll which asked "what is your no.1 fear?" That the second most common answer was death. What was the top answer? What could be more scary than death...?

That answer was public speaking. So here are five great tips to beat your fear of making speeches,giving presentations or whatever form of public speaking awaits you.

Plan, Plan, Plan, Plan

The old saying is still true - fail to plan then plan to fail... The key to delivering a successful speech is to know your material, write about what interests you and speak about something you are passionate about - for some it's much easier to talk about cars then finance. Always plan out what is appropriate for your audience, if it's something with a lot of data or numbers - then it may be more appropriate to include a variety of print outs whereas a meeting about cars could have a slide show on a projector with a variety of cars you will talk about. Sometimes you don't get to choose what you get to talk about and so you just have to find your own personal way to discuss the topic that has a personal touch, something that makes it unique.

Learn Your Material
You will find it amazingly easier to deliver a speech that you know what your talking about and that you have rehearsed, rather then one that you finished writing and printing the night before. Preparation is essentially the key to doing well in a speech and you will find that over preparing will never hurt.

The Delivery
Okay, so your standing in front of a crowd and it doesn't matter how big that crowd is, you may be feeling like your heart is beating at 150 miles an hour. Everything is moving so fast, and you hear your name called to start your speech. You feel queasy inside and as you open your mouth to say a word, you feel no moisture - just a dry mouth. This is what you will feel like most likely and don't worry, there are many other people who feel the exact same way when delivering a speech. This is how you may feel at the beginning but when you finish speaking you will feel completely different if you manage to keep the audience interested and maintain in control of yourself.

Do's and Do Not's

Do: Relax
Before you start, take a deep breath and just build yourself up. My favorite quote to say when I am in that position is to say, 'I can achieve whatever I believe'. Keep taking deep breaths whenever you need to, your audience will be thankful that you are pacing every now and then - it also gives them a chance to soak in the information. If you have the option, you can take a sip of water every now and then as a breather break.

Don't: Apologize for a Mistake
Don't apologize for a mistake. People most likely didn't notice it and stopping and saying, 'I'm sorry - that wasn't meant to be there' is more likely going to do more harm then good. Just continue on like you didn't even notice you made a mistake, it's the same concept when performing in a dance competition or a music recital - don't stop if you mess up - just continue and show you have the ability to adapt to any situation.

Do: Enthusiasm
Nobody likes a speech without enthusiasm and you will often find it may be difficult to speak up and project your voice but it will involve your audience and be worth it in the end.

Don't: Worry about Blushing/Embarrassment
Everyone hates speaking in a crowd (well mostly everyone - including me) and naturally some people will blush or get 'red faced'. The more you worry about it, the more people will take notice to it. If you focus your energy on engaging your listeners and forget about the blushing then it will fade as soon as it arrived and less people will care about it because you obviously don't seem to.

The Aftermath
You did it! You finished your speech and guess what? You're still alive and I am sure you even got a hand of applause when you finished. Feels good doesn't it? Well, you put in the hard work and survived - take a deep breath and acknowledge any complements with a quick thanks.

These tips were written by my good friend Christopher Newman.

Want to learn more about how to succeed at public speaking? I will soon be releasing an instructional audio which will help you through the fear of making speeches and presentations and guide you to success...

There will be two audios one about self esteem and one about public speaking. Look out for these in the next week or so!

SELF ESTEEM AND PUBLIC SPEAKING AUDIOS TO BE RELEASED SOON - GET ONE OR BOTH FOR A GREAT PRICE HERE - NEWS COMING IN THE NEXT FEW DAYS!!

New Audios to be Released !

2009-08-14T00:29:00.000-07:00

Yesterday I created a new bonus for something I'll be releasing next week...

This new bonus is something that will interest you. It's called:

"40 Sure-Fire Tactics that Guarantee High Self Esteem"

Inside this great bonus you will find strategies and tactics that you can immediately use to raise your self esteem. You know how important that is right?

Self Esteem = Success and Happiness

Some examples of the tactics you'll find in my report:

- Stop Worrying What Others Think
- Create your Own Expectations
- Look For Challenges

And many more, lots of real nuggets here for you to use today!

So how do you get your hands on this bonus?

Next week I will be releasing two audios - the first is "Boost your Self Esteem" and includes this new bonus I've just created. The second audio is about "Conquering the fear of Public Speaking". That will also come with a bonus report that is also something you don't want to miss.

The doors will open on Tuesday 18th August when you can take advantage of my special offer on one or both audios...

These audios are gonna knock your socks off!

Till next week...
Karl

Comments and a free gift..

2009-07-23T00:37:00.000-07:00

Last week I offered subscribers to my self esteem newsletter the chance to get a free gift. What is it, I'll tell you in a moment...

I asked readers to tell me what results they have had following the advice in my email messages, on my website or if they bought my e-book "Self Esteem Secrets". I asked them to explain what they had read, what they did and what the result was.

Most people gave very general answers but what I want is specific examples of how my material has helped you. There is still time for YOU to get my free gift if you answer these three questions.

Here are some comments I've had.

General Comments:

"Thank you very much for your letter, and for the entire contribution to the world you have made with your books and teachings"

Dejan

"I'm more confident than I used to be before I started reading all the e-mails you've been sending me. I can talk to anybody and still maintain that self-respect and esteem within me. My life has had added meaning and I'm more focused in being the man I have ever dream to be."

Faithful

Today because of you I am entirely a different person.Now I can look boldly into someone's eye and speak with confidence. Thank you and may God continue to bless you so that you could be a blessing to others."

Deokie Peters

More Specific Comment on my e-book:

"I would like to thank Karl for all his help and for his fantastic book. I would encourage anyone to purchase this book, I think the book is fantastic. I have v low self esteem and confidence and Karl has explained in v practical terms what to do. To glance at the book even for a few minutes throughout the day would give you encouragement and lift your spirits. I keep analyzing things and always thinking the worst can happen and I have found the book very helpful with this.

Mary Galvin

Read more about my e-book "Self Esteem Secrets"

I will be putting up many more of these comments in the next few weeks.

Oh, yes nearly forgot..My free gift is an audio of my top 5 tips for beating low self esteem...

Answer these questions specifically and get your free gift:
send your answer to me

It's all about attitude!

2009-07-22T12:11:00.000-07:00

I'd like to tell you about windsurfing, one of my passions...

Well, this blog post is not about windsurfing but about success and attitude. Last week I went out windsurfing and I just couldn't make any progress. I made the same old mistakes and kept coming up short. My mind was all wrong. I couldn't do anything special at all. I felt like quitting and said to myself this is a failure - I can't do anything today.

The next day I thought back and decided that I'm not as bad as that. After all, ı have been at this sport for years. My performance was way down and I didnt do myself justice. So with a change of attitude what happened? I amazed myself and erased the day before from my memory. I was like a new person and I just couldn't stop pushing myself further and further until I exceeded my expectations. A week later I now know I have progressed so much and wonder if that day didn't mean so much more than simply windsurfing...

Of course in business, in your personal life you can achieve so much more with the right attitude. It gives you energy and determination and makes success inevitable.

Next time you find yourself struggling and giving up ask yourself how you can change your attitude and understand just how much your success depends on your thinking.

I really hope that this post helps you today in some small way. get your mind right and you can fly!!

Check out my self esteem website for more about attitude and self belief:

Depression Helper Weekly Message

2009-07-15T00:25:00.000-07:00

I hope you're doing OK this week and things are going well for you.This is a quick email I sent out today to give my subscribers some more help overcoming depression.

I want you to watch a great little video about exercise and it's effect on depression..

I'm positive this is going to help you so check it out here:

Depression Video - Fit to Fight Depression

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Recent updates

2009-07-11T01:18:00.000-07:00

Just letting you know about the latest updates I've put up on my various websites.

Here are the latest great links Ive given out to my subscribers:

A new video about self esteem (added at the top of the page)

A new article about self help and making progress

Some more questions and my answers to readers emails about self esteem

I hope you enjoy these links, drop a comment on this blog and let me know what you thought and which of these helps...

Please sign up for my self esteem newsletter and weekly tips

How to Manage your Fears, Anxiety and Depression

2009-07-01T23:50:00.000-07:00

A quick post here about a subject that seems to be on readers minds all the time. My inbox is always filled with emails coming in about one subject that comes up time and again:

What can I do to overcome my fears and anxieties?

I have an answer for you in a recent article I published on my website, I'd like you to take a look because this is something that may really help you. Here's the article:

How to manage your fears, anxiety and depression

I welcome your comments about the article and I also advise you to take action if you suffer from any kind of fear, anxiety or depression. You do not have to be a slave to your emotions and depression there is a program you should check out. It works.

Don't let anxiety, stress or depression control you! You need to become a master of your emotions and thinking and that's how to break free. Discover how...

Check out this Natural Depression, Stress and Anxiety Program

How to make progress from any self help program

2009-06-27T00:12:00.000-07:00

Are you disappointed by the results you see from a self help program you've followed recently?
Did you pick up a self help book that promised you so much yet nothing has changed?

Are you struggling to make progress in your life and need to improve yourself?

Don't give up on these self help books and courses they ARE of value and can change you if you go about it the right way...

Want to learn more about how you can get more out of self help? Read my new article:

How to make progress in self improvement

Take Action!

2009-06-21T23:25:00.000-07:00

We all have problems and self improvement is about consistent effort. Sometimes your search for knowledge how to beat a problem can cause procrastination.

The reason why so may people buy programs or books and don't see results is because they don't take action...

You are not actually working on your problems until you apply what you learn so don't kid yourself that learning is enough. Learning is only the first small step...

Please think about all the times you have tried to solve your problems and looked for information. How did you apply it? Did you give up before putting the new knowledge into action?

Self help books are filled with quizzes and exercises. Did you take these seriously and complete them before moving on? Did you think about the questions and use your answers to make a change in your life?

Let's face it just one aha moment in any book, webpage or e-book could be enough to make a huge difference IF you apply that and make a change in your life or in your behaviour...

My e-book "Self Esteem Secrets" will help you build unshakeable self esteem because it first helps you understand what your problem is and then guides you how to put this knowledge into effect and take action...

If you have a problem with your self esteem please check out my e-book Self Esteem Secrets

Depression Videos

2009-06-10T11:05:00.000-07:00

This is another page I set up for my subscribers and I told them about this recently.

There was a very positive reaction to the videos I posted on this page. Take a look yourself now at these informative and inspiring videos and see if they don't motivate you to positive action!

This is a great presentation and detailed outline of steps you can take to overcome depression. It is NOT out of your control...

Got to this page to view the depression videos now...

If you suffer from depression please join my depression mailing list..

My new Q&A page - Self Esteem Answers

2009-06-08T03:25:00.000-07:00

Last week I put up a new Q&A page for my newsletter subscribers.

I want you to see just how much value I offer to my regular newsletter subscribers and the content that you can get for free if you sign up.

I asked readers to email me questions and I posted them along with my answers. They are very short answers and I intend to constantly update this page...

I think you'll benefit from reading this..

Check out my Self Esteem Q&A page now:

...and I invite you to sign up for my self esteem newsletter here

Change from Inside

2009-05-28T23:24:00.000-07:00

Today I want to talk to you about change.

Before you can change your life and what's in it you need to change what's inside you. It's a fact that if you say something like "I hate my life and this is not what I want!" then you're just focusing on what's wrong and you'll get more of that again.

In order to make positive changes in your physical world you need to think differently and feel differently. Ever notice that when you feel good everything seems to go well for you?

The opposite is true when you feel bad and indulge your negative side everything seems to get worse...

I've tried changing where I live and moved to a different country on more than one occasion and my life did change but guess what? My mind went with me and my problems were still there. Given time if you want to chase your dreams and live a better and happier life start by changing inside.

How do you do this?

First you should look at yourself, your thoughts and what you say because this shows what is going on inside you. Is your attitude helping you or holding you back?

Find some time to quieten down and get peaceful. Listen to some gentle music. Ask yourself what you want and begin to see and experience it in your mind.

Read positive books and fill your brain will positive stuff.

Talk to yourself in a positive way. This is called self talk and it will help you to become happier.

Focus on what's good in your life and be thankful.

keep a daily journal of your successes and things that made you happy.

Imagine a car with a poor engine, not serviced and not working properly. It struggles uphill coughing and spluttering and sometimes stops. It lets you down when you need it most.

Your mind is your engine and you cannot hope to be successful or happy without a mind that is functioning correctly and supporting you in facing every challenge that lies in front of you.

Discover how to improve your life today:
- It's all in my e-book: Self Esteem Secrets - get a copy today

Bad Self Image

2009-05-21T01:28:00.000-07:00

I've decided to answer a selection of emails and post them here so that you can benefit from the questions my visitors send me.

Here's an email I just received:

"I think the problem with me is that I have bad self image to the point where if I dont think I look good I wont be confident, and I'm just not happy with how I look so it therefore equals to me not being happy with who I am. I'm not an obviously vain person but its beginning to click with me that my self esteem is linked to my looks.Do I have to take more specific action if the problem is self image?

I have done this course and read Mckennas book instant confidence but it doesn't seem to make me feel better."

My answer:

Well, it's a common problem especially with women. You see images of beautiful, slim models on TV and you feel ugly or fat because you don't think you compare. Perhaps you think you need to lose weight or you dont think you are attractive. Whatever the problem is it is common now.

It is difficult to get over this and needs you to get confidence step by step. It also needs a different way of thinking. You need to start focusing on your good points and try to accept yourself as you are. What are you good at? Who likes you and why? Is anybody attracted to you and if so what do they like about you?

Make a list of all your good points and any compliments people have given you write them down. This will help you when you feel bad.

Of course, if you do have a physical problem then get help.

If your problem is one of self image then tell a friend and maybe they can help. Make yourself feel more confident by trying a new hairstyle or new clothes. If it makes you feel more confident then do it. Maybe you will get a bit more attention from those you are trying to attract and this will boost your confidence...

Yes, action is needed to improve self image!

If you can, this is not easy, try to focus on other things apart from appearance and looks. Most people find personality, friendliness and humour very attractive and at work you will be judged by what you do rather than what you look like.

I will not deny that looks are an advantage and play a part, but much less than you believe...

You are unique, start today by showing the world just how unique you are!

Good luck building your self esteem...

My e-book "Self Esteem Secrets" will help you build your self esteem and confidence.
Get a copy of Self Esteem Secrets today!

Procrastination - a real enemy!

2009-05-08T01:40:00.000-07:00

Here's an email I received this week from a visitor to More-SelfEsteem.com

"I am serious about building my self-esteem but I have some insecurities about myself. This led to me procastinating every single day and I hate it."

I have often thought that procrastination is connected with low self esteem. If you are feeling down think about how much you are procrastinating...

The problem is that if you know in your heart that you are not taking action that you should you will feel worse and your self esteem will drop like a stone. In the question we can see how it feels to someone who procrastinates. They begin to hate this and soon they turn this against themselves...

So if you need to boost your self esteem then it follows that you need to take action!

Action that will free you...

Positive action!

"If you can overcome procrastination and take action you will immediately start feeling good about yourself because you have started doing something to reach a goal. If you suffer from low self esteem or lack of confidence, procrastination will make things worse because inside you will know that you are paralyzed..."

(the above is an excerpt from "Self Esteem Secrets" Chapter Eleven all about procrastination)

**View a sample of the chapter about procrastination FREE...**

"Before you can take any action you have to make a decision and take steps towards achieving your goals and this first step will lead to an increase in your self-esteem and confidence. Each step you take will bring you closer to your goal and therefore will increase your confidence and self esteem, so don’t stop..."

More on this in my next article on More-selfesteem.com

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Books and E-books - what's the difference?

2009-05-06T23:42:00.000-07:00

What is the difference between an e-book and a book?

Do you have any thoughts on this? Is one better than another?

Some visitors have asked me if I have a printed book version of my e-book "Self Esteem Secrets" and some only want to order it if I have a book version...

Why?

Maybe a good old fashioned book has more prestige?

So, here's what I'm doing this week:

I'm preparing my e-book so that I can convert it into a printed book and become an author, something I've dreamed about all my life!

After I've done this I plan to sell it on Amazon and Barnes and Noble for starters...

Let me know what you think about this idea and any thoughts you have about books and e-books...

Educate Yourself!

2009-04-30T00:30:00.000-07:00

One incredibly powerful step you could take today is to decide to educate yourself...

Why?

Because knowledge is power, it will give you confidence and it is a major tool that makes success in your life more certain.

Without knowledge you are like a headless chicken rushing around and going nowhere but knowledge guides you and directs you.

Take some time today to educate yourself: reading, taking a course, investing your time into learning about something that will help you do what you want to do..

Don't let work take all your time. Set aside time each day to learn, the benefit will repay you over and over again..

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